There are those moments in life when you just feel unhappy, frustrated, unsatisfied with yourself, unloved or just plain miserable. Most of the time these feelings dissipate after a cup of coffee (or glass of wine), a talk with a good friend or a walk in the nature. But when it gets to the point where you feel like you can’t bear it anymore, you don’t know how to keep going and how to help yourself, it might be the moment to seek the advice of a psychologist. Here are some of the reasons why to visit a psychologist.
1) Feeling overwhelmed
Your marriage is not as it used to be and maybe you take it as a personal failure and don’t know what to do? Maybe you think you are not even a good parent, you feel like a complete loser who does not know how to communicate with his/her own children. Communicating effectively might even be an issue with your co-workers and work is stressing you out in general. These are the problems that a psychologist is able to help you with.
2) Psychosomatic problems
Headaches, insomnia, fatigue, ulcers, high blood pressure etc. are examples of long term stress caused symptoms. When we feel tired, but still keep going, when we live in a mode of “I have to”, when we swallow our feelings instead of expressing them, the body starts to react and show us that something is not right. A psychologist can help us understand the roots of our situation and find out what steps we need to take in order to feel better.
3) Better understanding yourself and the others
Therapy helps you to not only understand yourself better but the other people as well. We often make assumptions on what the others think or intend, but when we ask them what they meant by saying this or that, we usually get surprised. Too many times we assume and take personally things that in reality have nothing to do with us.
4) Anxiety and fears
People experience fear and anxiety more often than we think. What anxiety and fear have in common is the unpleasant feeling of tension and inner disquiet. The difference is that fear has a definite reason and it is connected with the real threat. Anxiety, on the other hand, is more general and the definable reason is missing. It is ok to be scared or anxious once in a while, but when you get to the point where you feel paralyzed by fear or anxiety, it’s time to seek professional help.
5) Helping the next generations
By discovering your own suppressed feelings and emotions and talking about them openly helps you to teach your children a better way. The kids need to know that it is ok to express their feelings and talk about their emotions without being judged, that even the anger can be dealt with in a heatlhy way. The more work you do on yourself, the less work you leave for your children and their children too.
It is important to know that you don’t have to be “crazy” if you want to visit a psychologist. The stigma is slowly fading, mental health is becoming more and more a main stream topic that is ok to talk about. And there is nothing to be afraid of.
Psychologists are trained to work with people like you and are able to analyze your feelings and show you ways how to improve your life and career.
Call our Douglasglen location in Calgary SE to book an appointment.